I read this statement in a book recently and I thought it was such a lovely turn of phrase.
So many of my clients are told by well-meaning friends and family to just stop trying and then it will happen. But this is easier said than done of course, and often makes women feel like crap.
I see women getting obsessed with their fertility and it’s just not helpful. If you can get to a place where you can stop filling your entire headspace with worries about your fertility, there will then automatically be space for the resources/inspirations to pop into your mind. By making that space in your mind you are going to move closer to your goal. The right things/ideas will then just show up. By holding your fertility lightly, you can spend the rest of your time enjoying life to the full.
This only happens though when you get out of living in the past i.e.: dwelling on what has gone wrong before now or living in the future i.e. worrying about what may or may not happen next. You must start living in the present moment, just focusing on the here and now and then you can hold your fertility lightly whilst also getting on with filling your life with joyful, fun experiences. A short but sweet blog post this week. Click here to read my article on the emotional strain of trying to get pregnant which further discusses these themes.