The Fertility Waiting Game

One of the hardest things about being on a fertility journey is not knowing when your baby will show up. When your emotional tank runs dry, journey fatigue becomes a real thing!

For some women, conceiving is very quick, but for many women, they’ve had to wait 2, 5, 10, 15, or even 18 years (the longest I’ve heard of) for their baby to arrive.

Do you have the patience and the resilience to wait that long?

If you desire to have a child, there is always a way to make that happen for you. It’s about aligning with that urge, and the rest, as they say, should fall into place.

But how do you maintain your resolve while you wait?

Here are my recommendations:

Get an accountability buddy

Having someone you can talk to regularly who ‘gets it’ can help you stay focused and positive while navigating your journey. Do you have any friends in a similar situation that you could ask? Meet them once a week and check in on how you’re both feeling and what you’re focussing on. What’s working and not working for you? Ask each other about your current challenges and what you are committing to in that coming week.

Daily journaling

Getting your thoughts and emotions down on the page and out of your head is a really freeing thing to do and helps you make sense of your mindset.

Self-care, self-care, self-care

You can genuinely never do enough to support yourself in this process. Attend to your every need as if you were a crying baby. What will help you stay strong and open to this process as you move closer to your goal?

Get quiet so you can hear your inner wisdom

We have an inner navigation system that always knows exactly what we need to do/be in any given situation; the problem is we are often too busy to hear it. Meditation is a great way to get quiet and hear these whispers from our souls. Another way to do this is to practice yoga, deep breathing, and walking in nature. Find what works for you. Making time to get quiet helps you know your next steps in terms of treatment and how you can best show up for yourself at any given moment.

Assess how you feel about your body

Are you mad at your body for not getting pregnant yet? If so, I recommend writing a letter of forgiveness to your body so you can let all that anger and frustration go because while it’s bounding around in your body, it’s not helping you and your fertility.

Take stock of where you are today on your journey

Be in appreciation for where you have been. List all the opportunities, things you’ve learnt and people who’ve helped you. You will find that there are so many beautiful things on your list. Use this list to give you confidence. This will ultimately build your resilience and patience to continue along your journey.

I do hope this has been helpful. Don’t hesitate to get in touch with me to find out how we can work together.